Okay, I am struggling with my mental health big time postpartum. I’m thick in the mess right now and struggling to function. I also have a chronic illness. It’s been a frustrating time of it feeling like I have a new issue every week. This was the conversation that my husband and I needed to hear. Thank you for your vulnerability.
I know he kinda dropped that and assumed everyone knows what he’s talking about. Lol. The website is Lk10.com It’s the organization/community we found when we were reeling from church trauma and spiritual abuse. Zach works for them now! There’s a Facebook group too!
Wow! I can say I relate! Not with the mental health stuff but people thinking and saying that I ruined my husband and made him become a different person. We used to be Mennonite, and it’s my “fault” that we left because I wasn’t “submissive enough”. I’m definitely the louder more assertive one in our relationship. I’m an 8 and he’s a 9. I remember clearly the day he begged me to be his teammate and not be the submissive doormat I was always taught I should be after marriage. So, I’ve always been the “problem” and he’s the hero for putting up with me. 🫣🤦🏻♀️ We don’t view it that way at all! We’ve been through some deep crap and he tells me regularly that if it wouldn’t have been for my strength and support we would never have made it. There is a LOT of spiritual abuse in our story. Anyway, that was rambly. 😬😆 Thanks for sharing your story! I feel less like a problem simply because of who I am. Maybe I’m exactly who I need to be.
I tried pulling the “you make the call and I’ll submit to your decision” card ONCE in our marriage and he would not have it. Anytime I even hint at letting him make final calls he says absolutely not. If we’re the “problem” then they’re the enablers! 😂
“You gonna go make me a latte now?” Favorite line in this. 😂 so relatable.
Seriously though, I loved this conversation. It made me realize that our marriage isn’t alone. And that it can be beautiful even if I am the mentally ill one in the relationship and it feels like I am constantly unearthing issues and problems and more diagnosis’s... or blowing up with overwhelm or sadness or SOMETHING. (FYI, I truly am working my butt off to heal and understand myself better so as to not destroy humanity as we know it. 🤪) Our relationship doesn’t have to be “normal” to be beautiful and wonderful. We can both find fulfillment in it. Neither of us is the burden and neither of us is the hero.
Okay, I am struggling with my mental health big time postpartum. I’m thick in the mess right now and struggling to function. I also have a chronic illness. It’s been a frustrating time of it feeling like I have a new issue every week. This was the conversation that my husband and I needed to hear. Thank you for your vulnerability.
I’m hope it was encouraging!
Loved this relatable conversation. Was wondering what Luke 10 groups were and church of two? Sounds like we need some!
I know he kinda dropped that and assumed everyone knows what he’s talking about. Lol. The website is Lk10.com It’s the organization/community we found when we were reeling from church trauma and spiritual abuse. Zach works for them now! There’s a Facebook group too!
Oh and that pixie girl torments me too. I often dream about the easy life my husband would have if he didn’t have such a firecracker to deal with. 😆
Wow! I can say I relate! Not with the mental health stuff but people thinking and saying that I ruined my husband and made him become a different person. We used to be Mennonite, and it’s my “fault” that we left because I wasn’t “submissive enough”. I’m definitely the louder more assertive one in our relationship. I’m an 8 and he’s a 9. I remember clearly the day he begged me to be his teammate and not be the submissive doormat I was always taught I should be after marriage. So, I’ve always been the “problem” and he’s the hero for putting up with me. 🫣🤦🏻♀️ We don’t view it that way at all! We’ve been through some deep crap and he tells me regularly that if it wouldn’t have been for my strength and support we would never have made it. There is a LOT of spiritual abuse in our story. Anyway, that was rambly. 😬😆 Thanks for sharing your story! I feel less like a problem simply because of who I am. Maybe I’m exactly who I need to be.
I tried pulling the “you make the call and I’ll submit to your decision” card ONCE in our marriage and he would not have it. Anytime I even hint at letting him make final calls he says absolutely not. If we’re the “problem” then they’re the enablers! 😂
😂 that’s a good way to look at it!
“You gonna go make me a latte now?” Favorite line in this. 😂 so relatable.
Seriously though, I loved this conversation. It made me realize that our marriage isn’t alone. And that it can be beautiful even if I am the mentally ill one in the relationship and it feels like I am constantly unearthing issues and problems and more diagnosis’s... or blowing up with overwhelm or sadness or SOMETHING. (FYI, I truly am working my butt off to heal and understand myself better so as to not destroy humanity as we know it. 🤪) Our relationship doesn’t have to be “normal” to be beautiful and wonderful. We can both find fulfillment in it. Neither of us is the burden and neither of us is the hero.
He’s my lil in house barista 😆