I have noticed over the years people get so upset with my straightforwardness on issues in the church much quicker than outside-yet the passive aggressiveness is so prevalent. I was taught if you’re going to say something, say it with your whole chest and know mama will hear.
It drives me a little batty to see such an undertone in churches because truth is supposed to be one of the cornerstones of our faith, yet we think “I once knew…” is so much nicer than flat out saying “hey that behavior isn’t cool”. …
Great post. Over the last few years I noticed how often I operated in this way and it was not fun to realize that! I have always hated confrontation so it’s more “comfortable” to be passive aggressive instead! 🫣 And social media and technology certainly makes it easier. I appreciate the transparency in your sharing and the wise approach to keeping out of these messes!
I love this so much. Here’s some things that I loved in particular - your honesty and vulnerability in admitting being passy agressy and recognizing the harm. (Recovering passy agressy girl here 🙋🏻♀️)
I also loved how you said “your words matter” amen x a million! The book of James talks about this and it’s so true! Nothing has the power to build up or break down so quickly as our words!
Finally - what you said about clear communication. I heard a while ago that clear communication is kind communication and I think it’s so true! Leave no room for interpretation and say what you mean with love and kindness.
I really appreciate this. As someone who has a very sensitive radar to when something is off between folks in the online world, I've often felt super awkward or confused when I see folks swiping at each other, especially when I thought they were friends. The passive aggressive posts are often more obvious than folks think.
Needed this this morning. In a very 'first-world-problem' kinda disagreement with new neighbours over a shared washing machine. I've been second guessing the whole way I've communicated with them, feeling like I should have taken the easier route. But I'm reminded of the value of my openness when the other option would have just generated resentment. Thank you for reminding me of the value of my honesty and integrity ❤️
Dang if I don't adore you. Thank you so much for this. Your truth, which is truth-truth, was beautifully and vulnerably expressed in love. Ask me how I know...about the truth, not the beautiful expression. Still working on that. You rock.
I have noticed over the years people get so upset with my straightforwardness on issues in the church much quicker than outside-yet the passive aggressiveness is so prevalent. I was taught if you’re going to say something, say it with your whole chest and know mama will hear.
It drives me a little batty to see such an undertone in churches because truth is supposed to be one of the cornerstones of our faith, yet we think “I once knew…” is so much nicer than flat out saying “hey that behavior isn’t cool”. …
Great post. Over the last few years I noticed how often I operated in this way and it was not fun to realize that! I have always hated confrontation so it’s more “comfortable” to be passive aggressive instead! 🫣 And social media and technology certainly makes it easier. I appreciate the transparency in your sharing and the wise approach to keeping out of these messes!
I love this so much. Here’s some things that I loved in particular - your honesty and vulnerability in admitting being passy agressy and recognizing the harm. (Recovering passy agressy girl here 🙋🏻♀️)
I also loved how you said “your words matter” amen x a million! The book of James talks about this and it’s so true! Nothing has the power to build up or break down so quickly as our words!
Finally - what you said about clear communication. I heard a while ago that clear communication is kind communication and I think it’s so true! Leave no room for interpretation and say what you mean with love and kindness.
Thank you for these words!
Thanks for talking about this. Such an important post, and it caused me to reflect on my own passive aggressive tendencies.
I really appreciate this. As someone who has a very sensitive radar to when something is off between folks in the online world, I've often felt super awkward or confused when I see folks swiping at each other, especially when I thought they were friends. The passive aggressive posts are often more obvious than folks think.
Needed to read this. Thank you.
Needed this this morning. In a very 'first-world-problem' kinda disagreement with new neighbours over a shared washing machine. I've been second guessing the whole way I've communicated with them, feeling like I should have taken the easier route. But I'm reminded of the value of my openness when the other option would have just generated resentment. Thank you for reminding me of the value of my honesty and integrity ❤️
Dang if I don't adore you. Thank you so much for this. Your truth, which is truth-truth, was beautifully and vulnerably expressed in love. Ask me how I know...about the truth, not the beautiful expression. Still working on that. You rock.
Yes. Thank you Kristen. I relate to this entire post in a deep way. Thankful for your words and your heart!!